Wednesday 30 October 2013


Being able to laugh at ourselves is a virtue, and accepting our curves even more so. None of us are ever satisfied with our shape, no matter what you look like, pears want to be straight, the tall ones want to be short and so the list goes on...... Whatever shape and size you are, and if you cannot change it by following a balanced diet, embrace it and accept the curves or whatever it is that pains you, with open arms. The most effective way to do so is to accept that we have to adjust our personal dress style in accordance with our body types. Embracing a flaw doesn't mean you have to flaunt it, nor do you have to conceal it. We can however live with it by wearing cuts and styles that actually flatter our particular shapes. I've spent years trying to blow my hair straight and finally one day came to realise that no matter how hard I try, a shoulder length bob blown out straight would never work. The slightest bit of mist or fog, and my hair goes into a frenzy of  curls. I also tried wearing shift dresses but being pear shaped, it resembles the Westminster Abbey's bell in tights, with the emphasise on the widest part of my body. So I moved onto bell shaped skirts which does not conceal, nor emphasise the shape of my hips.  A pencil skirt however should not necessarily be avoided, and can the width of the hips easily be balanced with a jacket that has shoulder pads. Fortunately for fashion, one can now again find jackets with a little structure above, and if you find a good jacket without proper construction, one could easily fix that with ready made shoulder pads inserted by hand. The width of the jacket immediately distracts from the pear shaped hips and leads the eye to the shoulders. So come on girls, don't steer away from the pencil skirt if you are pear shaped, take advantage of the fact that bigger shoulders are back in vogue and slip into that little skirt! For the lucky ones who are lesser blessed with wide hips, don the shift dress with pizazz!
Jacket - Mart Visser
Skirt - Belle Epoque
Top - Primark
Shoes - Artigiana
Leather & Suede Tote - Unbranded
Sunglasses - Prada


  1. This is a great outfit! I like the alike colors. You look very curve balanced :-) So good you wrote this article. Feeling better today ;-)

  2. What a great look on you! Balanced, and nicely pattern mixed.

  3. This is a great outfit and you are right about about balance. You have done it beautifully here! I adore mixing of pattern, just lovely.

    blue hue wonderland

  4. A superb reflection and a very successful tips. I like your look, I like your skirt. The shoes are cute.

  5. I can't live without animal prints ;-) Love this look, Nicolene!

    Annette | Lady of Style

  6. Glad to see shoulders! You look lovely in your combination, and you dress your pretty pear shape so effectively.
    Counting my flaws was a bad habit of my youth, and one of the great things about having a bit of age on is that I'm pretty used to dealing with them. And it's astonishing how a little extra weight was once a horrible state of affairs, and now it's just what I want to maintain. It's nice to know it now keeps me looking healthier and a bit younger!
    You remind me of a Duro Olowu trench I need to bring out ... it's new, but has a little shoulder. I'm so ready for it.

  7. So in love with your black and white ensemble you blance out so very well the striped and leopard pattern and the long pencil skirt to the cropped jacket. key is to know what fits best to your body shape and use items to emphasize the good looking parts :-)

    Great post, really enjoyed reading it Nicolene :-9


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